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The Catholic Man Show - Purifying your Memory

The Catholic Man Show - Purifying your Memory

October 23, 2020


The thoughts that take place in the memory can weigh us down to the point of death, or enliven us to sainthood

About our drink:

John Walker & Sons Celebratory Blend

2020 marks 200 years since John Walker first opened the doors to a small grocery store in rural Scotland, setting in motion a chain of events that would change the world of Scotch whisky forever. This is a limited edition release inspired by our first commercial blend ‘Old Highland Whisky’  the first of our whiskies to be exported from Scotland to the four corners of the world.

About our gear:

Lansky Deluxe 5-Stone Sharpening System

  • Deluxe 5-stone knife sharpening system for kitchen, outdoor, hobby, or garden knives
  • Includes extra-coarse, coarse, medium, fine alumina oxide, and extra-fine ceramic hones
  • Controlled-angle sharpening system with 17-, 20-, 25-, and 30-degree angle options
  • Color-coded stones with finger-grooved safety holders; specially formulated honing oil
  • Includes precision-engineered knife clamp and custom-molded storage/carrying case

About the Topic:

Many times when we sin, it is because we have entertained a disorder and perceived it to be good. When we do sin many times it is hard to forget about what we have done and we can glorify the sin. “Forgiveness of sins by God is precisely the highest and the most eminent form of the purification of memory. That is because the divine forgiveness really erases and destroys the sin, so that its weight does not burden the conscience anymore.”

How we can help purify the mind: 1. Confession 2. Adoration and an increase in prayer life which increases the theological virtue of hope 3 Holy thoughts and images.

The Catholic Man Show - Public Discourse with Dr. John Cuddeback

The Catholic Man Show - Public Discourse with Dr. John Cuddeback

October 16, 2020


Dr. John Cuddeback joins us to discuss why we are so bad at public discourse.

About our drink:

We didn’t have a featured drink in this episode. It was recorded at 7am… we had to go to work… moderation.

About our gear:

True Friendship: Where Virtue Becomes Happiness

We all want true friends. But how many of us know what friendship is? “Friendship: The Art of Happiness” explains what friendship is, why we seek it, and why it is often hard to find. Philosopher John Cuddeback deftly weaves the timeless wisdom of the Greeks and Sacred Scripture into a practical wisdom that will show you the path to the most rewarding of human achievements – being a friend.

About the Topic:

Here’s Dr. John Cuddeback’s article we mention in the episode.

Why are we so bad at public discourse? Why can we not have civil conversations anymore? How do we cultivate good conversations within our family and teach our children to have good quality conversations? We discuss this and more with Dr. John Cuddeback in this episode. (Make sure to watch the full episode on Youtube)

About our Guest:

From Dr. John Cuddeback:

In my quarter-century as a philosophy professor, I’ve been exposed to much wisdom. I try to understand it, and I want to share what I have found.

Being married twenty-five years and raising six children has also brought a few hard-to-see things to light.

I have known the struggles of being a husband, father, friend, employee, and citizen in very confusing times.

The travails of the household—as experienced by husbands and wives, fathers and mothers, children, and others—especially consume my attention and are close to my heart. The way forward is not easy, but we can search for it and travel it, together.

My search is for refreshing and revitalizing waters from a good place. Peaceful yet challenging, silent but powerful, old as the hills and exactly what we need today.

I want to reconnect with what we already know, or at least that we can know. It’s both deep within us, and it’s out there. We need to find it, and I know we can.

My goal is a more fully human life, in its many facets, lived together in community and in life-giving relationships. I hope we can work toward this together.

Visit Dr. John Cuddeback’s website – Life-Craft

The Catholic Woodworker:

Want to help your child grow in virtue and have prudence in public discourse? Check out The Catholic Woodworker’s St. Thomas Aquinas Home Altar.  There is a prayer on the back for “students”, and a good reminder that we are all students.  In the case of public discourse we should look to St. Thomas Aquinas as inspiration for how to study, and how to argue well and charitably.

Home Altar

Prayer Card

The Catholic Man Show - Canon Law Questions with Fr. David Webb

The Catholic Man Show - Canon Law Questions with Fr. David Webb

October 9, 2020


Code of Canon Law with Fr. David Webb

About our drink:

Kurayoshi Sherry Cask

A sherried expression from the Kurayoshi range, created by little-known Japanese whisky producer Matsui Shuzou (also known for sake and shochu). These whiskies are blended malts, made with whiskies distilled in Scotland and shipped over to Japan, where they’re blended with Japanese whisky.

About our gear:

The Code of Canon Law

Here’s a study edition that would be cool to have as a reference.

You can access the code of canon law on the Vatican website.

About the Topic:

What is the Code of Canon Law? Why is it important to Catholic dads? Is it infallible? We discuss these questions in this week’s episode with Fr. David Webb.

About our Guest:

Fr. David Webb is the Associate Pastor of Christ the King Parish and Chaplain of St. Philip Neri Newman Center at the University of Tulsa

Here’s a great introduction to Fr. David Webb.

The Catholic Man Show - Aquinas, Causes of Love, and Marriage

The Catholic Man Show - Aquinas, Causes of Love, and Marriage

October 2, 2020


Aquinas, Causes of Love, and Marriage

About our drink:

Johnnie Walker 18 year old

Johnnie Walker Aged 18 Years is made using whiskies that have matured for at least 18 years. Carefully chosen for their flavor and quality, these whiskies make for a wonderful combination of both classic and contemporary tastes – blending notes of citrus and fragrant almonds, with warm vanilla and a hint of tropical tangerines. When you’re looking for a whisky to make an occasion or celebration extra special, Johnnie Walker Aged 18 Years is an excellent choice.

About our gear:

No gear this week but something to do with your wife.

You and your wife write down the top 10 things that make you the happiest. Share the 10 things and think about if what you do throughout the day moves you closer to those things or further away.

This idea came from reading the book Playing with Frie by Scott Rieckens

About the Topic:

  1. The Good as a Cause of Love
  1. That it is (ST I-II:26:1)

“As stated above (Q. XXVI., A. 1), Love belongs to the appetitive power which is a passive faculty. Wherefore its object stands in relation to it as the cause of its movement or act. Therefore the cause of love must needs be love’s object. Now the proper object of love is the good; because, as stated above (Q. XXVI., AA. 1, 2), love implies a certain connaturalness or complacency of the lover for the thing beloved, and to everything, that thing is a good, which is akin and proportionate to it. It follows, therefore, that good is the proper cause of love.

  1. Application to Married Life
  • The more virtuous, the more loveable.
  • Foster natural virtues (prudence, temperance, fortitude, and justice)
  • Foster supernatural virtues (faith, hope, and love)
  1. Beauty as a Cause of Love
  2. That it is (ST I-II:26:1 ad 3)

The beautiful is the same as the good, and they differ in aspect only. For since good is what all seek, the notion of good is that which calms the desire; while the notion of the beautiful is that which calms the desire, by being seen or known. Consequently those senses chiefly regard the beautiful, which are the most cognitive, viz., sight and hearing, as ministering to reason; for we speak of beautiful sights and beautiful sounds. But in reference to the other objects of the other senses, we do not use the expression beautiful, for we do not speak of beautiful tastes, and beautiful odours. Thus it is evident that beauty adds to goodness a relation to the cognitive faculty: so that good means that which simply pleases the appetite; while the beautiful is something pleasant to apprehend.”

  1. Application to Married Life
  • The more beautiful, the more loveable.
  • Beauty as seen: e.g., physical appearances, external behavior, facial expression of mood, etc.
  • Beauty as known: e.g., knowledge of spouses life, skills, ideas, etc.
  1. Knowledge is Cause of Love
  2. That it is (ST I-II:26:2)

“As stated above (A. 1), good is the cause of love, as being its object. But good is not the object of the appetite, except as apprehended. And therefore love demands some apprehension of the good that is loved. For this reason the Philosopher (Ethic. ix. 5, 12) says that bodily sight is the beginning of sensitive love: and in like manner the contemplation of spiritual beauty or goodness is the beginning of spiritual love. Accordingly knowledge is the cause of love for the same reason as good is, which can be loved only if known.”

  1. Application to Married Life
  • The more knowledge we have of our spouses, the move loveable they become.
  • Deep and meaningful conversation fosters growth in knowledge of spouse.
  1. Likeness is Cause of Love
  2. That it is (ST I-II:26:3)

“Likeness, properly speaking, is a cause of love . . . One kind of likeness arises from each thing having the same quality actually: for example, two things possessing the quality of whiteness are said to be alike . . . [this] kind of likeness causes love of friendship or well-wishing. For the very fact that two men are alike, having, as it were, one form, makes them to be, in a manner, one in that form: thus two men are one thing in the species of humanity, and two white men are one thing in whiteness. Hence the affections of one tend to the other, as being one with him; and he wishes good to him as to himself.”

  1. Application to Married Life
  • It often occurs when one excels in an area and the other doesn’t, there can be tension. As such, we should strive to attain likeness or commonality in some areas of the spousal friendship.
  • E.g., exercise, topics of study, laughing at memes, etc.
The Catholic Man Show - Talking about Chanting with a Monk

The Catholic Man Show - Talking about Chanting with a Monk

September 25, 2020


Clear Creek Monastery – Fr. Bachmann talks to use about chanting

About our drink:

Broken Arrow Brewing – Clear Creek Saison 

Saith Saison, French meaning “Season”. A style of farmhouse ale from the Northern regions of France and Belgium. Named in honor of the Saint Benedictine monks that first traveled to Indian Territory in 1875. They returned in 1999 to build their Clear Creek Abbey outside of Hulbert, OK. This is quite carbonated with fruity, floral, and earthy aromas with a hint of spice. Slightly sweet with a golden straw hue.

About our gear:

Liber Usualis

This book contains the propers and ordinary of the Mass for the whole year as well as the chants for the Divine Office according to the Roman Rite of 1962

About the Topic:

Why do we chant? What’s the difference between chanting and singing? If we sing, do we pray twice? What if we sing badly, does it still count? We talk about this and more with Fr. Bachmann from Clear Creek Abbey.

The Catholic Man Show - The Marital Debt

The Catholic Man Show - The Marital Debt

September 18, 2020


What is Marital Debt? What does St. Thomas Aquinas say about it – Let’s discuss

About our drink:

Redbreast 15 year

The nose on this pure pot still Irish whiskey is nutty with light spices, oak, and red apples. The taste is smooth with roasted almonds, figs, blackberries, oak, and dark chocolate notes. The finish has a hint of vanilla with hazelnut and charred oak notes. Outstanding!

Visit Whiskycast for more

About our gear:

This episode is sponsored by The Catholic Woodworker – Use TCMS for 10% off all purchases

The credit card (we do not give financial advice in this episode. Invest at your own risk)

Our topic:

That there is a marital debt to be paid

As the slave is in the power of his master, so is one spouse in the power of the other (1 Cor. 7:4). But a slave is bound by an obligation of precept to pay his master the debt of his service according to Rom. 13:7, Render … to all men their dues, tribute to whom tribute is due, etc. Therefore husband and wife are mutually bound to the payment of the marriage debt.[1]

-very first commandment in the bible “go, be fruitful and multiply”

The Catholic Man Show - Karlo teaches us about Purgatory

The Catholic Man Show - Karlo teaches us about Purgatory

September 11, 2020


Purgatory with Karlo Broussard

About our drink:

Tupps Brewery – Full Grown Man

About our gear:


Our topic:
Talking about purgatory with Karlo Broussard with Catholic Answers.
Check out on the topic of purgatory.
The Catholic Man Show - Philosophy of Humor

The Catholic Man Show - Philosophy of Humor

September 11, 2020


Philosophy of Humor

About our drink:

Longbranch Bourbon

Wild Turkey Longbranch: 8-year-old Kentucky Straight Bourbon made in small batches and refined with Texas Mesquite and American Oak charcoals. This unique process results in an extraordinarily balanced and smooth sipping whiskey with subtle hints of smoky sweetness.

2020 Double Gold – San Francisco World Spirits Competition

2019 Gold, 90 Points – Beverage Testing Institute

About our gear:

A magic trick – this video is a cool card trick to teach about Christ’s resurrection.

Our topic:
Philosophy of Humor:
Humor is such a human thing, yet isn’t discussed by many philosophers.
In this episode we discuss:
– The Superiority Theory
– The Relief Theory
– The Incongruity Theory
– The Play Theory
We also discuss this in relation to C.S. Lewis’s satirical work, “The Screwtape Letters”
Feser articles on humor 1 and 2
The Catholic Man Show - Voting with a well-formed conscience

The Catholic Man Show - Voting with a well-formed conscience

August 28, 2020


We have a duty to vote – let’s discuss

About our drink:

Whistlepig 12 year

Rye inspired by Old World barrel-aging traditions.

This 86-proof 12-year-old Rye Whiskey is a marriage of whiskeys aged in New American Oak and ingeniously finished in Port (7%,) French Sauternes (30%,) and Madeira casks (63%). We’ve taken the elements that are most quintessential in an American rye – boldness and character – and fused them with the elegance and grace of an 18-year-old Scotch.

About our gear:

Shoe Tree

A shoe tree holds a shoe in its proper shape so it dries out correctly, and keeps the leather from cracking by wicking away moisture. The absorbent wood also helps dry out the lining of shoes so that they don’t rot from the inside out.

Our topic:
Catholics have a moral obligation to promote the common good through the exercise of their voting privileges (CCC 2240). It is not only civil authorities who have responsibility for a country. “Service of the common good require citizens to fulfill their roles in the life of the political community.” (CCC 2239). This means citizens should participate in the political process at the ballot box.
Here are some good resources:
The Catholic Man Show - Is there sex in Heaven?

The Catholic Man Show - Is there sex in Heaven?

August 21, 2020




Become a Patron!

Audio: Encyclical of Pope Benedict XV on St. Dominic

About our drink:

Kilchoman 2010 Vintage Release

The 2010 Vintage is a vatting of 45 casks, all filled in 2010. It consists of 42 fresh bourbon barrels and 3 oloroso sherry butts, bottled at 48% abv with no chill filtration or colouring (as with all Kilchoman bottlings). A total of 15,000 bottles will be available worldwide.

About our gear:

T-Nex: Micro-emulsion concentrate used to manage growth and improve quality and stress tolerance of warm- and cool-season turfgrasses. Improves rich color, lateral stems, and root mass development. Inhibits vertical shoot growth. Helps produce healthy, durable blades in turfgrass.

Our topic:
Is there sex in Heaven?
The article we referenced breaks it down into 4 philosophical principles: 1. Sex is something you are, not something you do. 2. The Alternative to chauvinism is not egalitarianism. 3. Sex is spiritual. 4. Sex is cosmic.
Listen to Dr. Peter Kreeft’s lecture.
The Catholic Man Show - The home is set apart

The Catholic Man Show - The home is set apart

August 14, 2020


The Mantra of Love – “I Give MY LIfe for Yours”. How does the Christian home reflect this?

About our drink:

Dark Soul – Saint Benedict’s Brew Works

Located in the beautiful rolling hills of Ferdinand, Indiana, our brewery is dedicated to creating delicious craft beers and serving delectable comfort food to feed our community. Prayworkbrew. . .that’s our motto.

About our gear:

The House
A book we discussed as well: “Hallowed Be This House” by Thomas Howard
Our topic:
We talk about the home and how each room should reflect the giving up of oneself for another.
The Catholic Man Show - How to not evangelize in a weird way

The Catholic Man Show - How to not evangelize in a weird way

August 7, 2020


Leisure, Contemplation, Gratitude, Charity, and Evangelization

About our drink:

Glen Scotia Victoriana

Each cask is chosen for its rare character and exceptional maturity. Finished in deep charred oak, the result is an exceptionally smooth single malt whisky whose aroma and flavour work in harmony. Bottled in the traditional way straight from the cask and without filtration, its subtle wood and vanilla flavour is enhanced by a full bodied spicy fruit aroma and mildly smokey aftertaste.

About our gear:

This week we offer a challenge rather than a gear. Tune in to hear the challenge.
Our topic:

Leisure > Contemplation > Gratitude > Charity > Evangelization

Leisure – Leisure is essentially “non-activity”; it is a form of silence. Leisure implies an attitude of total receptivity toward, and willing immersion in, reality; an openness of the soul, through which alone may come about those great and blessed insights that no amount of “mental labor” can ever achieve. Leisure implies that a person is freed for this period of time from any social function. Yet leisure does not mean the same as a break. A break, whether for an hour or 3 weeks, is designed to provide a respite from work in anticipation of more work; it finds its justification in relation to work. Leisure is something entirely different. The essence of leisure is not to assure that we may function smoothly but rather to assure that we, embedded in our social function, are enabled to remain fully human. 

Contemplation – It has been interpreted to mean: not only in the life to come, but also in his material existence in history, man is, to the very roots of his being, a creature designed for and desiring vision; and this is true to such a degree that the extent of a man’s happiness is only as great as his capacity for contemplation.

St. Teresa of Avila – “Contemplative prayer in my opinion is nothing else than a close sharing between friends; it means taking time frequently to be alone with him who we know loves us.”

St. Gregory the Great – “the contemplative life is to cling with our whole mind to the love of God and our neighbor, and to desire nothing beside our Creator.”

Aquinas says people’s life are said to be contemplative who are chiefly intent on the contemplation of truth.

“Contemplation is a gaze of faith, fixed on Jesus. “I look at him and he looks at me”: this is what a certain peasant of Ars in the time of his holy curé used to say while praying before the tabernacle. This focus on Jesus is a renunciation of self. His gaze purifies our heart; the light of the countenance of Jesus illumines the eyes of our heart and teaches us to see everything in the light of his truth and his compassion for all men. Contemplation also turns its gaze on the mysteries of the life of Christ. Thus it learns the “interior knowledge of our Lord,” the more to love him and follow him.”

Gratitude – is being thankful for understanding reality for what it is. It is a moral imperative that keeps our focus on God, the source of all our blessings.

“Thank God ahead of time.” – Fr. Solanus Casey

CCC 2097: To adore God is to acknowledge, in respect and absolute submission, the “nothingness of the creature” who would not exist but for God. To adore God is to praise and exalt him and to humble oneself, as Mary did in the Magnificat, confessing with gratitude that he has done great things and holy is his name. 

CCC1418 “Because Christ himself is present in the sacrament of the altar, he is to be honored with the worship of adoration. “To visit the Blessed Sacrament is… a proof of gratitude, an expression of love, and a duty of adoration toward Christ our Lord.”

Charity: “The theological virtue by which we love God above all things for His own sake, and our neighbor as ourselves for the love of God.” 

Aquinas on charity as “the friendship of man for God”, which “unites us to God”. Aquinas holds it as “the most excellent of the virtues.” Further, Aquinas holds that “the habit of charity extends to only to the love of God, but also to the love of our neighbor.”

The fruits of charity are joy, peace, and mercy.

Evangelization: “Go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you.” Mt 28:19

The Catholic Man Show - Dignity and Vocation of Women

The Catholic Man Show - Dignity and Vocation of Women

July 31, 2020



About our drink:

Tupps Brewery – Stout

About our gear:


Our topic:

The dignity and vocation of women. A subject of constant human and Christian reflection – have gained exceptional prominence in recent years. This can be seen, for example, in the statements of the Church’s Magisterium present in various documents of the Second Vatican Council, which declares in its Closing Message: “The hour is coming, in fact has come, when the vocation of women is being acknowledged in its fullness, the hour in which women acquire in the world an influence, an effect and a power never hitherto achieved. That is why, at his moment when the human race is undergoing so deep a transformation, women imbued with a spirit of the Gospel can do so much to aid humanity in not falling”
About Our Guest:
Dr. Myers comes is well-formed in the Faith and well-versed in practical ministry. She holds a PhD in theology from the Pontifical John Paul II Institute in Washington DC along with a Masters in Theology & Christian Ministry with certification in catechetics from Franciscan University and a Bachelor of Science degree from Vanderbilt University in English and Secondary Education. From 2010 to 2015, she underwent spiritual formation with the Secular Institute of Notre-Dame de Vie in France and Germany. For the last five years, she has been serving as the Director of RCIA & Adult Education and has a wide-range of practical experience in parish religious formation.
The Catholic Man Show - The Theology of the Face

The Catholic Man Show - The Theology of the Face

July 24, 2020


The Theology of the Face with Fr. Jim Cosgrove

About our drink:

Ardbeg Wee Beastie


Ardbeg Wee Beastie is the latest permanent expression to join the Distillery’s Ultimate Range. At just five years old, Wee Beastie is a feisty young creature with a formidable taste.


Our whisky creators set out to make the rawest, smokiest Ardbeg ever. The result is Ardbeg Wee Beastie and this tongue-tingling, beautifully smoky dram is the youngest Ardbeg we’ve ever made.

On the snout, intense aromas of cracked blacked pepper mingle with sappy pine resin and a sharp tang of smoke. Suddenly, an explosive mouthfeel bursts forth with chocolate, creosote and tar. Savoury meats sink into the palate before the long salty mouthcoating finish slinks away… revealing the inner beast of this Islay icon.

Young and intensely smoky, this is a dram untamed by age. Matured in ex-bourbon and Oloroso sherry casks, Wee Beastie is perfect for enjoying neat or as the mouth-watering main ingredient in a powerfully smoky cocktail.

Non chill-filtered at 47.4%.

About our gear:


Our topic:

Theology of the Face
The Catholic Man Show - Catholics and Fear

The Catholic Man Show - Catholics and Fear

July 17, 2020


What is Aquinas say about fear?

About our drink:

Basil Hayden’s Dark Rye

Blending is an art form, and our Dark Rye is your chance to own what might very well be a masterpiece.

It all begins with Kentucky Rye, providing a firm foundation of spice, oak, dried fruit and subtle molasses undertones for this release to build upon. From there, Canadian Rye from our award-winning Alberta Distillery is skillfully layered in. A touch of California Port, and its complementary notes of ripe fruit, provides the third and final layer to a whiskey just as at home on the rocks as it is in a cocktail.

Full in flavor, yet delicately nuanced, you’d be wise to grab a bottle of our Dark Rye to experience this magical blend for yourself.

About our gear:

Shotlock for shotguns. Learn more about it here.

Our topic:


Fear is a movement of the appetitive power. Now it belongs to the appetitive power to pursue and to avoid, as stated in Ethic. vi. 2: and pursuit is of good, while avoidance is of evil. Consequently whatever movement of the appetitive power implies pursuit, has some good for its object: and whatever movement implies avoidance, has an evil for its object. Wherefore, since fear implies an avoidance, in the first place and of its very nature it regards evil as its proper object.
It can, however, regard good also, in so far as referable to evil. This can be in two ways. In one way, inasmuch as an evil causes privation of good. Now a thing is evil from the very fact that it is a privation of some good. Wherefore, since evil is shunned because it is evil, it follows that it is shunned because it deprives one of the good that one pursues through love thereof. And in this sense Augustine says that there is no cause for fear, save loss of the good we love.
In another way, good stands related to evil as its cause: in so far as some good can by its power bring harm to the good we love: and so, just as hope, as stated above (Q. XL., A. 7), regards two things, namely, the good to which it tends, and the thing through which there is a hope of obtaining the desired good; so also does fear regard two things, namely, the evil from which it shrinks, and that good which, by its power, can inflict that evil. In this way God is feared by man, inasmuch as He can inflict punishment, spiritual or corporal. In this way, too, we fear the power of man; especially when it has been thwarted, or when it is unjust, because then it is more likely to do us a harm.
In like manner one fears to be over another, i.e., to lean on another, so that it is in his power to do us a harm: thus a man fears another, who knows him to be guilty of a crime, lest he reveal it to others.[2]
I answer that, As stated above (Q. XL., A. 1; Q. XLI., A. 2), as the object of hope is a future good difficult but possible to obtain, so the object of fear is a future evil, arduous and not to be easily avoided. From this we may gather that whatever is entirely subject to our power and will, is not an object of fear; and that nothing gives rise to fear save what is due to an external cause. Now human will is the proper cause of the evil of sin: and consequently evil of sin, properly speaking, is not an object of fear.
But since the human will may be inclined to sin by an extrinsic cause; if this cause have a strong power of inclination, in that respect a man may fear the evil of sin, in so far as it arises from that extrinsic cause: as when he fears to dwell in the company of wicked men, lest he be led by them to sin. But, properly speaking, a man thus disposed, fears the being led astray rather than the sin considered in its proper nature, i.e., as a voluntary act; for considered in this light it is not an object of fear to him.[4]
As stated above (A. 3), nothing can be an object of fear, save what is due to an extrinsic cause; but not that which ensues from our own will. Now fear partly arises from an extrinsic cause, and is partly subject to the will. It is due to an extrinsic cause, in so far as it is a passion resulting from the imagination of an imminent evil. In this sense it is possible for fear to be the object of fear, i.e., a man may fear lest he should be threatened by the necessity of fearing, through being assailed by some great evil.—It is subject to the will, in so far as the lower appetite obeys reason; wherefore man is able to drive fear away. In this sense fear cannot be the object of fear, as Augustine says (QQ. LXXXIII., qu. 33). Lest, however, anyone make use of his arguments, in order to prove that fear cannot at all be the object of fear, we must add a solution to the same.[6]
As stated about (A. 3; Q. XLI., A. 2), the object of fear is an imminent evil, which can be repelled, but with difficulty. Now this is due to one of two causes: to the greatness of the evil, or to the weakness of him that fears; while unwontedness and suddenness conduce to both of these causes. First, it helps an imminent evil to seem greater. Because all material things, whether good or evil, the more we consider them, the smaller they seem. Consequently, just as sorrow for a present evil is mitigated in course of time, as Cicero states (De Quæst. Tusc. iii. 30); so, too, fear of a future evil is diminished by thinking about it beforehand.—Secondly, unwontedness and suddenness increase the weakness of him that fears, in so far as they deprive him of the remedies with which he might otherwise provide himself to forestall the coming evil, were it not for the evil taking him by surprise.[8]
The object of fear is evil: consequently whatever tends to increase evil, conduces to the increase of fear. Now evil is increased not only in its species of evil, but also in respect of circumstances, as stated above (Q. XVIII., A. 3). And of all the circumstances, long-lastingness, or even everlastingness, seems to have the greatest bearing on the increase of evil. Because things that exist in time are measured, in a way, according to the duration of time: wherefore if it be an evil to suffer something for a certain length of time, we should reckon the evil doubled, if it be suffered for twice that length of time. And, accordingly, to suffer the same thing for an infinite length of time, i.e., for ever, implies, so to speak, an infinite increase. Now those evils which, after they have come, cannot be remedied at all, or at least not easily, are considered as lasting for ever or for a long time: for which reason they inspire the greatest fear.[10]
The objects of the soul’s passions stand in relation thereto as the forms to things natural or artificial: because the passions of the soul take their species from their objects, as the aforesaid things do from their forms. Therefore, just as whatever is a cause of the form, is a cause of the thing constituted by that form, so whatever is a cause, in any way whatever, of the object, is a cause of the passion. Now a thing may be a cause of the object, either by way of efficient cause, or by way of material disposition. Thus the object of pleasure is good apprehended as suitable and conjoined: and its efficient cause is that which causes the conjunction, or the suitableness, or goodness, or apprehension of that good thing; while its cause by way of material disposition, is a habit or any sort of disposition by reason of which this conjoined good becomes suitable or is apprehended as such.
Accordingly, as to the matter in question, the object of fear is something reckoned as an evil to come, near at hand and difficult to avoid. Therefore that which can inflict such an evil, is the efficient cause of the object of fear, and, consequently, of fear itself. While that which renders a man so disposed that thing is such an evil to him, is a cause of fear and of its object, by way of material disposition. And thus it is that love causes fear: since it is through his loving a certain good, that whatever deprives a man of that good is an evil to him, and that consequently he fears it as an evil.[12]
As stated above (A. 1), fear may be set down to a twofold cause: one is by way of a material disposition, on the part of him that fears; the other is by way of efficient cause, on the part of the person feared. As to the first then, some defect is, of itself, the cause of fear: for it is owing to some lack of power that one is unable easily to repulse a threatening evil. And yet, in order to cause fear, this defect must be according to a measure. For the defect which causes fear of a future evil, is less than the defect caused by evil present, which is the object of sorrow. And still greater would be the defect, if perception of the evil, or love of the good whose contrary is feared, were entirely absent.
But as to the second, power and strength are, of themselves, the cause of fear: because it is owing to the fact that the cause apprehended as harmful is powerful, that its effect cannot be repulsed. It may happen, however, in this respect, that some defect causes fear accidentally, in so far as owing to some defect someone wishes to hurt another; for instance, by reason of injustice, either because that other has already done him a harm, or because he fears to be harmed by him.[14]
A man of counsel may be taken in two ways. First, from his being willing or anxious to take counsel. And thus fear makes men of counsel. Because, as the Philosopher says (Ethic. iii. 3), we take counsel on great matters, because therein we distrust ourselves. Now things which make us afraid, are not simply evil, but have a certain magnitude, both because they seem difficult to repel, and because they are apprehended as near to us, as stated above (Q. XLII., A. 2). Wherefore men seek for counsel especially when they are afraid.
Secondly, a man of counsel means one who is apt for giving good counsel: and in this sense, neither fear nor any passion makes men of counsel. Because when a man is affected by a passion, things seem to him greater or smaller than they really are: thus to a lover, what he loves seems better; to him that fears, what he fears seems more dreadful. Consequently owing to the want of right judgment, every passion, considered in itself, hinders the faculty of giving good counsel.[16] 
Man’s exterior actions are caused by the soul as first mover, but by the bodily members as instruments. Now action may be hindered both by defect of the instrument, and by defect of the principal mover. On the part of the bodily instruments, fear, considered in itself, is always apt to hinder exterior action, on account of the outward members being deprived, through fear, of their heat. But on the part of the soul, if the fear be moderate, without much disturbance of the reason, it conduces to working well, in so far as it causes a certain solicitude, and makes a man take counsel and work with greater attention.—If, however, fear increases so much as to disturb the reason, it hinders action even on the part of the soul. But of such a fear the Apostle does not speak.[18]
I answer that, A human act is said to be a sin on account of its being inordinate, because the good of a human act consists in order, as stated above (Q. CIX., A. 2: Q. CXIV., A. 1). Now this due order requires that the appetite be subject to the ruling of reason. And reason dictates that certain things should be shunned and some sought after. Among things to be shunned, it dictates that some are to be shunned more than others; and among things to be sought after, that some are to be sought after more than others. Moreover, the more a good is to be sought after, the more is the opposite evil to be shunned. The result is that reason dictates that certain goods are to be sought after more than certain evils are to be avoided. Accordingly when the appetite shuns what the reason dictates that we should endure rather than forfeit others that we should rather seek for, fear is inordinate and sinful. On the other hand, when the appetite fears so as to shun what reason requires to be shunned, the appetite is neither inordinate nor sinful.[19]
I answer that, As stated above (A. 1), fear is a sin through being inordinate, that is to say, through shunning what ought not to be shunned according to reason. Now sometimes this inordinateness of fear is confined to the sensitive appetites, without the accession of the rational appetite’s consent: and then it cannot be a mortal, but only a venial sin. But sometimes this inordinateness of fear reaches to the rational appetite which is called the will, which deliberately shuns something against the dictate of reason: and this inordinateness of fear is sometimes a mortal, sometimes a venial sin. For if a man through fear of the danger of death or of any other temporal evil is so disposed as to do what is forbidden, or to omit what is commanded by the Divine law, such fear is a mortal sin: otherwise it is a venial sin.[21]
The Catholic Man Show - 5 Duties of Parents – CCC 2223

The Catholic Man Show - 5 Duties of Parents – CCC 2223

July 10, 2020



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4202 Main Street Brewing Pecan Ale

ABV 5.5%
20 IBU

Smooth Brown Ale made with freshly roasted pecans

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SaintCards 2020 collection – Use “MANSHOW7” to get an additional $7 off!

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Parents have the first responsibility for the education of their children. They bear witness to this responsibility first by creating a home where tenderness, forgiveness, respect, fidelity, and disinterested service are the rule. The home is well suited for education in the virtues. This requires an apprenticeship in self-denial, sound judgment, and self-mastery – the preconditions of all true freedom. Parents should teach their children to subordinate the “material and instinctual dimensions to interior and spiritual ones.” Parents have a grave responsibility to give good example to their children. By knowing how to acknowledge their own failings to their children, parents will be better able to guide and correct them:

He who loves his son will not spare the rod. . . . He who disciplines his son will profit by him.Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

The Catholic Man Show - Friendliness, Flattery, and Fatherhood

The Catholic Man Show - Friendliness, Flattery, and Fatherhood

July 3, 2020

Friendliness, Flattery, and Fatherhood

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Glenfarclas 12 Scotch Whisky is adored for its sherry bomb, spicy notes, sweet and dried fruit flavor notes.

This Scotch is carefully distilled at Glenfarclas distillery, Speyside.

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Friendliness, flattery, and fatherhood.

Check out the Summa

“It behooves man to be maintained in a becoming order towards other men as regards their mutual relations with one another, in point of both deeds and words, so that they behave toward one another in a becoming manner.”

In regards to friendliness: the virtuous man will sometimes not shrink from bringing sorrow to those among whom he lives… For this reason we should not show a cheerful face to those who are given to sin, in order that we may please them, lest we seem to consent to their sin, and in a way encourage them to sin further.

Check out this blog by Dr. Edward Feser

The Catholic Man Show - Prudence and Martyrdom

The Catholic Man Show - Prudence and Martyrdom

June 26, 2020


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Aberlour 16 Double Cask Bottling Note
Matured in two types of casks, the traditional oak and sherry oak casks and bottled at a slightly lower abv of 40% than previous editions, this 16 year old Aberlour is bursting with lush plum, raisin and even floral notes. A cracking Speyside malt.

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Having a will.

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1858 Grave matter is specified by the Ten Commandments, corresponding to the answer of Jesus to the rich young man: “Do not kill, Do not commit adultery, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Do not defraud, Honor your father and your mother.” The gravity of sins is more or less great: murder is graver than theft. One must also take into account who is wronged: violence against parents is in itself graver than violence against a stranger.[1]

Rev 2:10 – Do not fear what you are about to suffer. Beware, the devil is about to throw some of you into prison so that you may be tested, and for ten days you will have affliction. Be faithful until death, and I will give you the crown of life.[2]

Matt 10:33 – whoever denies me before others, I also will deny before my Father in heaven.[3]

The Catholic Man Show - G.I.R.M.

The Catholic Man Show - G.I.R.M.

June 19, 2020

General Instruction of the Roman Missal – Let’s make sure we know what we are doing

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Woodford Reserve Double Oaked

An innovative approach to twice-barreled bourbon creates the rich and colorful flavor of Woodford Reserve Double Oaked. Uniquely matured in separate, charred oak barrels – the second barrel deeply toasted before a light charring – extracts additional soft, sweet oak character.

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The General Instruction of the Roman Missal (GIRM)—in the Latin original, Institutio Generalis Missalis Romani (IGMR)—is the detailed document governing the celebration of Mass of the Roman Rite in what since 1969 is its normal form. Originally published in 1969 as a separate document, it is printed at the start of editions of the Roman Missal since 1970.

You can read the GIRM here

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All of the baptized are obligated to make the liturgy as fruitful as possible. Knowing why we do what we do at Mass will help all of us fulfill that obligation. And knowing why we worship the way we do will also cause us to “[grow] constantly in holiness by conscious, active, and fruitful participation in the mystery of the Eucharist” (GIRM, 5).

The Catholic Man Show - Responsible Parenthood

The Catholic Man Show - Responsible Parenthood

June 12, 2020

Responsible Parenthood

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Port Charlotte Heavily Peated

This high provenance, heavily-peated single malt was distilled from Islay-grown barley in 2012. A total of eight Islay farms came together to harvest the 2011 crop for Port Charlotte over a tempestuous summer. Each farmer had worked with us before, in Hunter Jackson, Ian Torrance, Ian MacKerrel, Raymond Fletcher, Mark French, Alistair Torrance, Raymond Stewart with father and son team Donald and Andrew Jones. Our community’s commitment to Islay is embodied here, where local barley is raised, distilled, matured and bottled only on Islay.

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“The Baby Bottle”

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Responsible ParenthoodFrom the USCCB: PDF


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