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Coffee and Pearls - Be the Peace Center of Your Home

Coffee and Pearls - Be the Peace Center of Your Home

March 17, 2020

Your job right now is to bring peace to your home. Let me share some ideas for how to do that!

 

Coffee and Pearls - Power of Gratitude

Coffee and Pearls - Power of Gratitude

March 17, 2020

You know you should be grateful. You've heard about keeping a gratitude journal. Listen to this to find out the ins and outs of why this practice is powerful and exactly how to practice it!

Coffee and Pearls - Key to Peace is Presence

Coffee and Pearls - Key to Peace is Presence

March 17, 2020

Stuck at home with your whole family? Here's how to have real peace even amidst the chaos.

Coffee and Pearls - Marriage and Valentine’s Day

Coffee and Pearls - Marriage and Valentine’s Day

February 19, 2020

The internet will no doubt be covered by hearts, candy, balloons, and more today. Once again a Catholic holiday (holy-day) has been co-opted by our secular culture. I don't mind the pictures, actually. We have a lovely book about St. Valentine and I think he would be proud that people stop and do nice things for their loved ones today. 

Where we get in trouble is when we believe that the absence of candy and balloons means an absence of love... or that love means warm and romantic feelings at all. 

I looked up the definition of romantic/romance and it was funny. A lot of it talked about books, movies where characters fall in love. Even the verb definition said, "to invent or relate romances; indulge in fanciful or extravagant stories or daydreams." The definitions all seemed to be circular... romantic referenced romance which referenced romantically which then referenced romance. 

If the dictionary is a bit confused about romance, it's no wonder we are with all the characters that surround us, both real and cultivated online. 

It's no secret that my marriage is going through a rough patch. Can we still say patch if it's been three years? Maybe we're in a rough orchard. On the outside, I'm sure we look okay. We function extremely well as partners taking care of our home, our business, and our kids. We even do a good job taking care of each other, doing nice things for the other person. 

It's the feelings that are missing, the warmth. And that's not surprising with 8+ months of abstinence... again. But since today seems to be about celebrating feelings, it's okay if you feel crummy. It's okay if your marriage is strained and the site of all the heart garlands and frosted cookies makes you feel a little bitter. 

Let those feelings bubble up. Notice them. Name them if you can. 

"I thought there'd be more sacramental grace. What does grace feel like?"

"How can this be the person God meant me to be with?"

"I love my family so much but I also feel trapped."

"I'm so lonely."

 

I've felt all manner of things these last three years and here's what I do. First, I share those feelings with God. He's my best friend. He wants to hear everything about my day and all my hopes and fears. I simply tell Him. 

Next, I remind myself that love is about sacrifice. True love always has deep sacrifice. I think that's one of the reasons Frozen is so popular. It's one of the only movies that shows true sacrifice simply for the love of another. We're so drawn to stories about real sacrifice for love. 

And last, I serve. I get up and clean the dishes. I make sure the towels are the way he likes them even if my heart feels cold. I remind him of an appointment even if I don't remember what flirting is like. I hold his hand every night when we pray because we serve God first and foremost. 

I love my husband a great deal and he loves me. We don't know how to navigate romance in a world of abstinence, six babies, entrepreneurship, and our current major house projects but we know how to love each other. We serve each other when the feelings aren't there. That's real sacrifice and it's real love. 

I have no idea if we'll figure out the feelings but I know we are honoring what God asked of us. My deepest desire is for Heaven and for sainthood and so I hope this is at least on the narrow road in that direction. 

I'm praying for all of you who may be feeling left out or hurt this Valentine's Day. I feel you.  Remember St. Valentine and his bravery. He fought hard for marriage and we certainly need more of that attitude in the world these days. 

On a TOTALLY unrelated note... maybe slightly related since taking care of our bodies and our souls is a great way to honor our marriage... the Fit and Holy Challenge is back and this year it's happening over Lent! 

It's a six week challenge that encourages you to pray, drink water, exercise, and connect with the Lord. Plus there's a sweet points tracker and who doesn't love a points tracker! There are awesome Catholic prizes each week although I've never won one and I still think this challenge is awesome! 

 I love this challenge and this year I super duper promise to not get pregnant so I'm going to work really hard to beat my personal record from past challenges!

If you want to join me, visit www.fitandholychallenge.com and sign up. Registration closes at midnight on Feb. 27th. 

Coffee and Pearls - Be Not Afraid

Coffee and Pearls - Be Not Afraid

January 7, 2020

As we head into a new year, there can be some scary things looming ahead. Sometimes there are unknowns as we walk by faith not knowing what's ahead. God gives us clues in the Bible for how we should not be afraid. Joan of Arc and Padre Pio help out too!

Coffee and Pearls - Why You Should Set Goals in December

Coffee and Pearls - Why You Should Set Goals in December

December 11, 2019

Don't blow all your goals in the month of December waiting for January to arrive. Anchor yourself to what's important now!
Read more at http://coffeeandpearls.libsyn.com/podcast/why-you-should-set-goals-in-december#lvlfJJqJgEUFut8H.99

Coffee and Pearls - No One Can Make You October

Coffee and Pearls - No One Can Make You October

October 8, 2019

Fall is my favorite but partly because I say no to a lot of the activities going on!
Read more at http://coffeeandpearls.libsyn.com/podcast/no-one-can-make-you-october#cmv8qHkAADTASd1o.99

Coffee and Pearls - The Profound Joy of Motherhood

Coffee and Pearls - The Profound Joy of Motherhood

September 24, 2019

The daily grind of motherhood is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen and I don't think we talk about it enough.
Read more at http://coffeeandpearls.libsyn.com/podcast/the-profound-joy-of-motherhood#Jl6XIkfzuUy8D7yk.99

Coffee and Pearls - The Power of Changing Your Mind

Coffee and Pearls - The Power of Changing Your Mind

September 17, 2019

We've lost the art of changing our minds and doing it gracefully. Let's talk about how we can educate ourselves and stick to our opinions, even if they change. 
Read more at http://coffeeandpearls.libsyn.com/podcast/the-power-of-changing-your-mind#qSqfYWYTfSeX5ZVL.99

Coffee and Pearls - Find a Hero and Marry Him

Coffee and Pearls - Find a Hero and Marry Him

September 10, 2019

I was inspired recently by a quote. "Find a hero, marry him, and then cheer him on every day." How many of us are doing that for our husbands?

Read more at http://coffeeandpearls.libsyn.com/podcast/find-a-hero-and-marry-him#AFeSA8Ug4hPmKrIb.99

Coffee and Pearls - Getting Back on Track

Coffee and Pearls - Getting Back on Track

September 3, 2019

When you're leaving a season of survival, how to do you get your life back on track?
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Coffee and Pearls - Screen Time in the Jaquith Household

Coffee and Pearls - Screen Time in the Jaquith Household

July 23, 2019

An episode dedicated to how we manage screens in a household with kids ages 8, 6, 4, 2, 1, and almost born!
Read more at http://coffeeandpearls.libsyn.com/#ls0Gw3WUsc1VQ1Ab.99

Coffee and Pearls - 5 Ways Screens Are Robbing You of Your Life

Coffee and Pearls - 5 Ways Screens Are Robbing You of Your Life

July 23, 2019

We know we're drowning in screen time but we can't seem to pull away. Here are 5 ways screens are ruining us and why we should fight against them!
Read more at http://coffeeandpearls.libsyn.com/5-ways-screens-are-robbing-you-of-your-life#cEiRLBlZvqYdiptZ.99

Coffee and Pearls - Less Stressful Summer Part 4

Coffee and Pearls - Less Stressful Summer Part 4

May 21, 2019

Spiders, snakes, and ticks - oh my! Let's talk about things that frighten us including drowning, whether or not sunscreen causes cancer, and more!
Read more at http://coffeeandpearls.libsyn.com/podcast#z2BBbVE0DgsODoUB.99

Coffee and Pearls - Less Stressful Summer Part 3

Coffee and Pearls - Less Stressful Summer Part 3

May 21, 2019

There are some crosses God has given us and we can't get rid of them, we can only learn how to carry them. In this episode we talk about big life transitions, being pregnant, not having AC, when your skin hates the sun and more! 

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Coffee and Pearls - Less Stressful Summer Part 2

Coffee and Pearls - Less Stressful Summer Part 2

May 21, 2019

Let's talk about kids who say, "I'm bored," sibling fights, messes, and all the noise, noise noise

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Coffee and Pearls - Less Stressful Summer Part 1

Coffee and Pearls - Less Stressful Summer Part 1

May 21, 2019

We talk about over-scheduling your summer, not having structure for your summer, being called a party pooper for not wanting to go camping with little kids and more!
Read more at http://coffeeandpearls.libsyn.com/podcast#z2BBbVE0DgsODoUB.99

Coffee and Pearls - Meal Plan Tips

Coffee and Pearls - Meal Plan Tips

April 9, 2019

Tired of not knowing what you're going to have for dinner? Let me help you streamline food for your family!
Read more at http://coffeeandpearls.libsyn.com/podcast#chHey4OlosZlGSib.99

Coffee and Pearls - You Don’t Have to Do Anything

Coffee and Pearls - You Don’t Have to Do Anything

March 26, 2019

Let's tap into our own agency to boost our self-confidence!
Read more at http://coffeeandpearls.libsyn.com/podcast#aBKJEed5IekwxD6G.99

Coffee and Pearls - STQ:  Sugar, Sex, Lent

Coffee and Pearls - STQ: Sugar, Sex, Lent

March 12, 2019
Thinking of decluttering for Lent? The Kindle version of my book Not Of This World is free from March 7-11. Get it here: https://amzn.to/2Tl2Cgk
 
The free Lenten Minimalism Challenge started yesterday! Join at www.facebook.com/groups/catholicminimalism
 
2. I'm totally off sugar and feeling like a superhero for all the things I've said no to. I did buy a sugar-free caramel syrup to put in my coffee though and that's been delightful one or two mornings a week!
 
3. Your goals are like a campfire, not a chair. When you build a chair, you can expect it'll be there tomorrow. When you build a campfire, you know you'll have to rebuild it every morning. Focusing on goals and reigniting that fire should be a daily activity!
 
4. Did you see that all 9 Season of Little House on the Prairie are now on Amazon Prime??? This is one of the few shows we let our children watch. Check it out here: https://amzn.to/2EVmbmI
 
5. I'm 12.5 weeks pregnant. My morning sickness and exhaustion are fading so I'm looking forward to a smooth sailing second trimester! Food is still a complete wildcard. I have no idea what I can eat or not but the baby promptly tells me when my husband says a food or when I smell a food! Currently, the baby always wants cheeseburgers and I'm blessed that my husband makes ah-mazing cheeseburgers! He won't tell me how he spices them!
 
6. Sex in the middle of the night has been surprisingly good and has a lot less pressure! Listen to the podcast version of this and I explain why!
 
7. I am doing the Jesus Tree from Catholic Sprouts https://catholicsprouts.com/Jesus-tree with the girls for Lent. I love the Jesse Tree of Advent so I was excited when she put this out. Order it now and start late because you know what, anything worth doing is worth doing poorly!

Read more at http://coffeeandpearls.libsyn.com/#jkYhR1LAWUepGm4s.99