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Married and Lonely

Married and Lonely

April 24, 2019

Why is it that so many married people feel alone and lonely? They feel like they are living together separately. No love, no kisses, no sex, no communication. Rather than oneness, they feel like ships crossing in the night. In this podcast, Tony discusses what has happened?

Scripture: He said in reply, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate.” Matthew 19:4-6

Quote: “When you make the sacrifice in marriage, you’re sacrificing not to each other but to unity in a relationship.” Joseph Campbell

Reflections: What measures have you taken to keep the fires of unity in your marriage burning? Is Christ at the center of your marriage? Do you pray together?

It Only Takes One

It Only Takes One

April 17, 2019

have always been impressed with the power in the number one. It only takes one person, one kind word, one thought, or one good deed to change the world. One is a very powerful number. In this podcast Tony talks about the power of one.

Quote: It only takes one smile to offer welcome and blessed be the person who shares it. It only takes one moment to be helpful, and blessed be the person who will spare it. It only takes one joy to lift a spirit, and blessed be the person who will give it. It only takes one life to make a difference, and blessed be the person who will live it. --Amanda Bradley

Scripture: “Do not fear: I am with you; do not be anxious: I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my victorious right hand. –Isaiah 41:10

Reflections: Have you ever been that one person for another? Can you remember the one teacher, coach or friend that helped you become the person you are today? Have you ever mentored a friend?

We Celebrate

We Celebrate

April 10, 2019

A few months ago, Diane and I had a very busy weekend. We celebrated the baptism of a niece’s son. We celebrated the lives of a husband and wife who had died only hours apart. And, we celebrated our mutual birthday (we were both born on February 23rd) with four other couples that share the same birthday week, an annual tradition for over 20 years. In this podcast, Tony discusses celebrating.

Scripture: Hallelujah! Praise God in his holy sanctuary; give praise in the mighty dome of heaven. Give praise for his mighty deeds, praise him for his great majesty. Give praise with blasts upon the horn, praise him with harp and lyre. Give praise with tambourines and dance, praise him with strings and pipes. Give praise with crashing cymbals, praise him with sounding cymbals. Let everything that has breath give praise to the LORD! Hallelujah! –Psalm 150 1:6

Always be ready to give an explanation to anyone who asks you for a reason for your hope, 1 Peter 3:15

Quote: The best way to live life is to celebrate life. –Matthew Kelly
Book: Rediscovering Catholicism by Matthew Kelly, Beacon Publishing, 2012

Reflection: What do you celebrate? Is celebration at the center of your Catholic life? How do family traditions become our celebration?

Girls with Purple Hair

Girls with Purple Hair

April 3, 2019

As I approached the scene, I couldn’t help but notice that cars were swerving to avoid the driver, who lay in pain in the middle of the street, and his bike that was now a twisted mess. No one was stopping to help! In this podcast, Tony discusses unlikely hero’s, girls with purple hair!

Scripture: “Therefore, you are without excuse, every one of you who passes judgment. For by the standard by which you judge another you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, do the very same things. –Romans 2:1

Quotes: If you judge people you have no time to love them. –-Mother Teresa

The loneliest people are the kindest. The saddest people are the brightest. The most damaged people are the wisest. All because they do not wish to see anyone else suffer the way they do. –Tony Agnesi

Reflections: Do we often judge people by their looks? Does purple hair or a tattoo affect the way you look at someone? Have you ever found the most unlikely people to be the most caring?

That’s Not Who You Are

That’s Not Who You Are

March 27, 2019

As I sat there, a male technician came out to the waiting room and in a loud clear voice said, “The colon cancer!” He repeated himself, “which one of you is the colon cancer? A few seconds passed before I realized that he was referring to me. As my anger grew, I rose to my feet and said, “My name is Tony, not the colon cancer! He sheepishly apologized. In this podcast, Tony discusses who you are.

 

Scripture: With all vigilance guard your heart, for in it are the sources of life. Proverbs 4:23

For through faith you are all children of God in Christ Jesus. –Galatians 3:26

Quote: “You are a child of God. You’re playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure about you. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us.”  –Marianne Williamson

Reflections: Have you been guilty of putting yourself down?  Have you ever allowed someone else to define who you are?  Do you ever feel unworthy of happiness?

The Devil on My Shoulder

The Devil on My Shoulder

March 20, 2019

I remembered as a kid the cartoon that depicted the devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other. The devil is whispering in one ear and the angel in the other. The devil is suggesting sin and the angel suggesting goodness.  In this podcast, Tony discusses good and evil.

Scripture: Consequently, brothers, we are not debtors to the flesh, to live according to the flesh. For if you live according to the flesh, you will die, but if by the spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live.  Romans 8:12-13

Quote:  An Old Cherokee told his grandson, “My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all.”

One is Evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility kindness, empathy and truth.

The boy thought about it and asked, “Grandfather, which wolf wins?”

The old man quietly replied, “The one you feed.”

Reflection: Do you feel this struggle with the wolves within you?  Is there one person, place or thing that you 

30 Days to Live

30 Days to Live

March 13, 2019

What if you only had one month to live? What would you do if the doctor said to get your affairs in order in the next 30 days? How would you live your life if you knew with certainty that your days on earth were numbered? In this podcast, Tony discusses the most authentic you.

Scripture: “Make us know the shortness of our life that we may gain wisdom of heart.” Psalm 90:12 (Grail)

Quotes: “Death is more universal than life; everyone dies but not everyone lives.” – Alan Sachs

Reflections: Have you ever had a life changing experience that changed the way you think about death?  What would you do differently if you only had one month to live?  Are you living as the most authentic version of yourself?

Too Busy to Pray

Too Busy to Pray

March 6, 2019

We all wish we had more time to pray. Ask 100 Christians if they would like more prayer time and most would answer yes. But, most would say that a robust prayer life is difficult.  In this podcast, Tony talks about being too busy to pray and how we can find the time for a better prayer life.

Scripture: “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.  For everyone who asks, receives; and the one who seeks, finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.   Matthew 7:7-8

“Whatever you ask for in prayer with faith, you will receive.” Matthew 21:22

Quotes: “Prayer is the oxygen of the soul.” -St. Padre Pio

The fruit of prayer is a deepening of faith. And the fruit of faith is love. And the fruit of love is service.” –Mother Teresa

“If you are too busy to pray, you are too busy!” –Mother Teresa

Reflections: What can you do to find more time to pray?  How important is prayer time to your well-being?  How do you find some extra time to pray?

We Never Forget Kindness

We Never Forget Kindness

February 27, 2019

There is something wonderful about kindness. We remember for years kindnesses that we received, many unexpectedly, some a needed blessing, others true miracles. Kindness is not easily forgotten.  In this podcast, Tony discusses random acts of kindness.

Scripture: “Give and gifts will be given to you; a good measure, packed together, shaken down, and overflowing, will be poured into your lap. For the measure with which you measure will in return be measured out to you.” –Luke 6:38

I have given you a model to follow, so that as I have done for you, you should also do.  –John 13:15

Quote: “You don’t pay love back, you pay it forward.” --Lily Hardy Hammond

Reflections:  Have you ever been the recipient of a random act of kindness? Does it make you feel like "paying it forward?"  Can you remember someone in your past because of their kindness?

That Your Joy May Be Complete

That Your Joy May Be Complete

February 20, 2019

Joy, the second fruit of the spirit from Galatians 5:22, a word used over 100 times in the old and new testaments, but what is it? What is joy?  Ask most people and they will say that it is happiness; but a true Christian understanding of joy goes beyond happiness.  In this Five Minutes with Tony podcast, Tony discusses joy.

Scripture: “As the Father loves me, so I also love you. Remain in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.” John 15:9-11

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you may abound in hope by the power of the holy Spirit.”  Romans 15:11

Reflections:  What makes happiness different than joy?  Have you ever felt true joy?  What was the occasion and how did it make you feel?  What can we do to have more joy in our lives?

Mothers and Sons

Mothers and Sons

February 13, 2019

There is something special about mothers and sons. It is an unexplainable bond that only they share. She gave him birth, nursed him, wiped his slobbered chin, and held the tissue when he blew his nose.  In this podcast, Tony discusses the special bond between mothers and sons.

Scripture: Standing by the cross of Jesus were his mother and his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary of Magdala. When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple there whom he loved, he said to his mother, “Woman, behold, your son.” Then he said to the disciple, “Behold, your mother.” And from that hour the disciple took her into his home. John 19:25-27

Quote: There has never been, nor will there ever be anything quite so special as the love between a mother and son. –Anonymous

Reflection:  What is your relationship with your mother?  What is the special bond you share?  What are the things you can share with your mom and no one else?

Br Not Afraid

Br Not Afraid

February 6, 2019

I read a while back that the Bible has 365 uses of the phrase “fear not” or “be not afraid.” I haven’t been able to verify that, but I can tell you that it is one of the most used themes in the bible.  In this podcast, Tony discusses fear and how it can paralyze our actions.

Quote:  If anyone on the verge of action should judge himself according to the outcome, he would never begin. Even though the result may gladden the whole world, that cannot help the hero; for he knows the result only when the whole thing is over, and that is not how he became a hero, but by virtue of the fact that he began.” — Søren Kierkegaard from Fear and Trembling

Scripture:  The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom should I fear? The LORD is my life’s refuge; of whom should I be afraid? Psalm 27:1

The LORD is with me; I am not afraid; what can mortals do against me? Psalm 118:6

Reflection: Do you feel your inaction is keeping you from achieving your goals? Do you feel you are moving in the direction of your goals?  What about the idea of baby steps?

Be Passionate

Be Passionate

January 30, 2019

I am a passionate person. I live life passionately. I am passionate about my marriage, my family, friends, my work, my writing and speaking, fishing, golf, and most importantly, I am passionate about my Catholic faith.  In this podcast Tony talks about the importance of passion.

Scripture: He said to him, “You shall love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and the first commandment. The second is like it:You shall love your neighbor as yourself. –Matthew 22:37-39

Quote: “It is obvious that we can no more explain a passion to a person who has never experienced it than we can explain light to the blind.” – T.S. Elliot

Reflections: What are you passionate about?  Are you passionate about your faith?  What drives your passions?

Embrace the Ordinary

Embrace the Ordinary

January 23, 2019

Most people spend their lives in pursuit of the extraordinary. We look at the lives of celebrities, glorify their excesses, and wish that our lives could be more like theirs.  In this podcast, Tony talks about the ordinary moments that represent 99% of our time on earth.

Quote: For most of life, nothing wonderful happens. If you don’t enjoy getting up and working and finishing your work and sitting down to a meal with family or friends, then the chances are you’re not going to be very happy. If someone bases his [or her] happiness on major events like a great job, huge amounts of money, a flawlessly happy marriage or a trip to Paris, that person isn’t going to be happy much of the time. If, on the other hand, happiness depends on a good breakfast, flowers in the yard, a drink or a nap, then we are more likely to live with quite a bit of happiness.        – -Andy Rooney

The only difference between an extraordinary life and an ordinary one is the extraordinary pleasures you find in ordinary things. – – Veronique Vienne

Reflection:  Do you find yourself missing the ordinary in search of the extraordinary?  What can we do to embrace the ordinary occurrences in life?  Are you comfortable with your ordinary life?

You Minister

You Minister

January 16, 2019

“Preach the Gospel at all times, and when necessary, use words.” ― Francis of Assisi

I’ve always been a fan of this quote from St. Francis. It speaks volumes about ministry. In this podcast, Tony discusses the personal ministries that we do every day.

Scripture: “Preach the Gospel at all times, and when necessary, use words.” ― Francis of Assisi

But you are “a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people of his own, so that you may announce the praises” of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.–1 Peter 2:9

Reflection:  What do you do in your daily life that you would consider ministry? Have you ever considered that the way you treat people is part of your ministry?  How do others minister to you?

Close Personal Relationship

Close Personal Relationship

January 9, 2019

Occasionally, an Evangelical friend or acquaintance will ask the question, “Do you have a close personal relationship with Jesus?”  This question throws many Catholics into a dazed look with no idea of how to answer. In this podcast, Tony examines the question and offers some thoughts.

Scripture: So humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time.  Cast all your worries upon him because he cares for you.  1 Peter 5:6-7

Quote: There is a God shaped vacuum in the heart of every man which cannot be filled by any created thing, but only by God, the Creator, made known through Jesus.  –Blaise Pascal

Reflection:  What about you, do you have a close personal relationship with Jesus?  How do you define a close personal relationship?  What about Tony's suggestions, have you tried any of these?

Seven Spiritual Resolutions

Seven Spiritual Resolutions

January 2, 2019

In this podcast, Tony offers seven spiritual resolutions for your new year.  We are either on one of two trajectories, growing in our relationship with God, or frankly, we are growing away from God (toward the devil).  As we are reminded in the book of Romans; we are either moving toward darkness or moving toward the light.

Scripture: And do this because you know the time; it is the hour now for you to awake from sleep. For our salvation is nearer now than when we first believed; the night is advanced, the day is at hand. Let us then throw off the works of darkness [and] put on the armor of light.  Romans 13:11-12

Quote: “The object of a New Year is not that we should have a new year. It is that we should have a new soul. –G.K. Chesterton

Prayer:

O Jesus,
through the Immaculate Heart of Mary,
I offer You my prayers, works,
joys and sufferings
of this day for all the intentions
of Your Sacred Heart,
in union with the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass
throughout the world,
in reparation for my sins,
for the intentions of all my relatives and friends,
and in particular
for the intentions of the Holy Father.

                                                                                                                               Amen.

Reflections: What are your resolutions for the new year?  Have you included some spiritual goals?  What is the one things that you can resolve for 2019 that will change your spiritual life for the better?

My Christmas Train

My Christmas Train

December 28, 2018

Before I could open the box my parents sat me down and told me that a neighbor boy’s father had been laid off and they couldn’t afford presents for my friend. Wouldn’t it be nice if I gave up one of my toys, so that he would have something under his Christmas tree?  In this podcast Tony discusses the tough decision he was forced to make on Christmas morning and the Christmas lesson we can learn from little children.

Scripture: “Amen, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will not enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever receives one child such as this in my name receives me.”  Matthew 18:3-5

Reflection:  Do you think that the six year old’s in your life would pass the test?  How about your teenagers?  Have you ever given up something that you wanted to help someone in need?  How did that make you feel?

No Nativity, No Eucharist

No Nativity, No Eucharist

December 28, 2018

Our living room is rarely used. It has become a place to go to make a quiet phone call, read or just get away from the noise and activity of the day. It’s our quiet room.  It is also the place where my wife, Diane sets up the nativity scene each year, a place where I enjoy going to pray and reflect on the birth of our Savior.  In this podcast, Tony discusses the nativity and its relationship to the Eucharist.

Scripture: “And she gave birth to her firstborn son. She wrapped him in swaddling clothes and laid him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn.” –Luke 2:7

Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me will never hunger, and whoever believes in me will never thirst. –John 6:35

ReflectionsHave you ever thought about the nativity and the Eucharist? what do you think of Tony’s comparison?  Can we truly have Christmas every day in the Eucharist?

Your Presence is Your Present

Your Presence is Your Present

December 19, 2018

Having Presents at Christmas isn’t quite as important as the people we have around us.  Family and friends become very important at Christmas time.  There is not a parent alive that wouldn’t trade even the biggest present for having their family together at the holidays.  Sons and daughters, grand kids, and friends, who are  living far away are the best Christmas gifts.  In this podcast Tony discusses how their presence in your holiday is the best Christmas present you could receive.

Scripture: And the Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us, and we saw his glory, the glory as of the Father’s only Son, full of grace and truth.  John 1:14

Quote: Lord, make me more attentive to the presence of the people around me this Christmas, my wife, children, and friends. Let me not be distracted by the hurried pace of the things of the secular world that are not important.  Help me, Lord, to be more attentive to you as well, in my prayer life and in helping those less fortunate around me.  Help me to spend this Christmas, attentive to the presence of the Holy Family, and my own family, this day.  Their presence will be the best present I receive this Christmas. –Tony Agnesi

Reflection:  Do you agree that receiving a present at Christmas isn’t as important as the people around us?  What can we do to shut out the secular pressure to buy more presents?  Which is most important, the gift, the giver, or the receiver?  How do you relate to Jesus as God’s gift to use at Christmas?  What can you do to keep Christ in Christmas?